I teach the Enneagram in the Narrative Tradition, which privileges participant's perceived, felt, and sensed experiences. To this end, I utilize movement, guided meditation, repeating question exercises, panel interviewing, storytelling and any other practice that brings participant experiences to bear on the collective learning process.
When you come to one of my workshops, enter into coaching work, or attend a retreat, come prepared to engage. I am of the deep belief that the most brilliant truths can (and do!) pass us by when we are not being attentive and receptive.
We begin our work with awareness practices, aimed to usher us into presence.
I believe that the "learners" in the classroom are the ones bringing the wealth and riches to share. I merely set the boundaries of the process and introduce the map and language for us to use as we explore the terrain. Information is only trivia if it sits outside of a rich context, and I've never been a big fan of trivia.
We continue the work by forging accepting and appreciative relationships with our own and each others' lived experiences.
Often we think of our "work" as trying to do healthy things, however, the process of becoming attentive, and appreciating what we find, is essential to the work itself, no matter how scary, difficult or surprising. This kind of spaciousness and silence allows us to discern what to do as driven by Love, not shame, by Security, not anxiety, and by Worth, not frustration. It's not always a clear cut process, and there's not really a short cut (including the Enneagram itself!). Sometimes we just have to sit and see what comes up.
We deepen the work by doing it all over again: practicing awareness, accepting and appreciating what we find.
Any educational experience that I facilitate is aimed at helping participants embody what it is like to practice awareness and compassion simultaneously, and empower each person to practice it on their own and with their communities.
Similarly to my teaching methodology, coaching work cannot simply be a head-centered endeavor. While many of my clients come to me to "know themselves" better, head knowledge has little helpful effect if it isn't accompanied by the knowledge that comes to us from the heart and from the body. Any coaching we engage in together will aim to equip you with the full bodied knowledge you need in real life. This means creating curious and kind space to notice your patterns at work, so that you can discern what to do, that is, when and how to deviate from the pattern onto "the neural pathway less travelled."
Our process is compassionate towards to the patterns, because there are reasons they have developed. But it must be said that the goal isn't just feeling good or "living my best life now." The process we engage in is about helping you to find ground in what is Really Real (inside of you and outside of you), and to learn how to face up to that reality with courage, wisdom and congruence.
On that journey, I see myself as at times a guide, and at times a witness. Good coaches know how to do these things--observe, listen, encourage, teach, and train. That is the kind of coach I strive to be! If you are interested in how we could do this work together, send me an email and I'll share more about the practical specifics of the process.